The Coaches Code

  • Before, during and after the game, be an example of dignity, patience and positive spirit.
  • Before a game, introduce yourself to the opposing coach and to the referee.
  • During the game, you are responsible for the sportsmanship of your players. If one of your players is disrespectful, irresponsible or overly aggressive, take the player out of the game at least long enough for him/her to calm down.
  • During the game, you are also responsible for the conduct of the parents of your players. It is imperative to explain acceptable player and parent behavior in a preseason meeting.
  • Encourage parents to applaud and cheer for good plays by either team. Discourage them and you may need to be forceful and direct from yelling at players and the referee.
  • During the game, you are also responsible for the conduct of spectators rooting for your team.
  • During the game, do not address the referee at all. If you have a small issue, discuss it with the referee calmly and patiently after the game.
  • If you have a major complaint, or if you think the referee was unfair, biased, unfit or incompetent, report your opinion to your League. Your reactions will be taken seriously if they are presented objectively and formally.
  • After the game, thank the referee and ask your players to do the same.
  • Referees - especially young and inexperienced ones - are like your players and yourself, in that they need time to develop. You can play an important role in helping them to improve by letting them concentrate on the game. You can help by encouraging them, by accepting their inevitable, occasional mistakes and by offering constructive post-game comments. On the other hand, you could discourage and demoralize the referees by criticizing their decisions, by verbally abusing them and inciting - or even accepting - your own players' overly aggressive behavior.
  • Your example is powerful, for better or worse. If you insist on fair play, if you concentrate on your players' enjoyment of the game and their overall, long term development, and if you support the referee, your players and their parents will notice. If you encourage (or allow) your players to play outside the rules, if you're overly concerned about results, and if you criticize the referee harshly, your players and their parents will also notice.
  • Think about what you're doing during a game! Uphold the Spirit of the Game! If you follow the expectations described above, the spirit of the game will be alive and well in Massachusetts and will grow, along with the enjoyment of all.

Behaviors of a Successful Youth Soccer Coach

  • Be positive, constructive, high spirited, and optimistic.
  • Communication is with "do-s" rather than "don't-s", "positives" rather than "negatives", "trust" rather than "mistrust."
  • Be prepared to demonstrate and play.
  • Exercise creativity and make it fun for you and the kids!

Maturity and Self-Control
  • Maintain respectful and appropriate behaviors with all players, referees, coaches, and spectators.
  • You are the role model and the kids are watching!!!

  • Exercise patience and a spirit of fair play.
  • Set an example of good sportsmanship.
  • Dress comfortably and appropriately…look like a coach!

  • Take the time to learn "The Game" (use Director of Coaching, courses, books, etc.)
  • Earn respect by knowing what you are doing.
  • Prepare practice sessions instead of just "winging" them.
  • Be consistent - practice what you preach.
  • Respect players and their individuality.